Christian Liberty

“A majority of single Christians are rejecting biblical doctrine by choosing to have sex before they are married. Sixty-one percent of self-identified Christian singles who answered a recent ChristianMingle survey said they are willing to have casual sex without being in love, while only 11 percent said they are waiting to have sex until they are married.” https://www.christianpost.com/news/christian-dating-culture-part-1-majority-of-single-christians-reject-idea-of-waiting-for-marriage-to-have-sex-114422/

While Christians would agree that sex before marriage is wrong (fornication), something has to change to help believers practically live out their faith. For one I think there is a misconception about Christian freedom and liberty. Freedom in Christ is not about seeing how close we can get to “the line” of sin without sinning, but rather it is a freedom to live rightly. Once we put our faith in Christ we can actually do things that are pleasing to God by the strength and help that the Holy Spirit provides.

For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death. -Romans 8:2

I also think Christians need to be more open and honest with each other. Encouraging and helping each other in the battle. There are temptations all around us and we all struggle with purity of the mind, heart, and action.

Kissing is a Leading Cause for Head and Neck Cancer

Ran across an article written a few years ago (2015), stating that kissing is now the leading risk for head and neck cancers (not sure if the stats have changed since then or not). It says the more people you kiss the more likely you are to get HPV. Might be wise to quit kissing all your dates.

Source:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3176772/Oral-HPV-cases-rise-causing-tsunami-head-neck-cancers.html

Average Age at First Marriage is Rising

The average age at first marriage has risen significantly over the last 50 years. People today are waiting 6-7 years longer to get married than previous generations. Between 1950-1960 the average age of men at first marriage was around 23 and the average age for women was around 20. Today the average age for men at first marriage is around 29 and the average age for women at first marriage is around 27.

Divorce rates have been fairly steady but the number of both men and women who have never been married has steadily increased.

https://www.census.gov/data/tables/time-series/demo/families/marital.html

Low Number of Christian Singles are Dating

Short and interesting read about how very few Christian singles are dating:
http://truelovedates.com/how-many-dates/

And a good follow up article on some possible reasons why:
http://truelovedates.com/5-reasons-christian-singles-arent-dating/

Number of People Never Married on the Rise

Some interesting stats from Pew Research Center. I’ve just included some highlights which I’m directly quoting from their website and have included the links so you can look at the stats more in depth if you want.

Number of People Never Married on the Rise
http://www.pewforum.org/2015/05/12/chapter-3-demographic-profiles-of-religious-groups/

“Since the first Religious Landscape Study was conducted in 2007, the share of Americans who are married has continued to decline, while the share of adults who have never been married has risen sharply. In fact, recent analysis of census data shows that the share of Americans who have never been married now stands at an all-time high.”

Interfaith Relationships

Chapter 2: Religious Switching and Intermarriage

“Interfaith relationships are common among married people and those living with a romantic partner, and interfaith marriage appears to be on the rise.”

“Interfaith relationships are far more common among unmarried people who are living with a partner (49% of whom have a partner with a religion different from their own) than among married people (31% of whom are in a religiously mixed marriage). Even among married people, however, mixed-faith relationships appear to be growing more common. Nearly four-in-ten married people who were wed since 2010 have a spouse who identifies with a different religious group.

These patterns strongly suggest that intermarriage has been rising, but it also should be noted that some research indicates that “in-marriages” (marriages between people of the same religion) tend to be more durable than intermarriages.”

More Women Identify with Christianity than Men
http://www.pewforum.org/2015/05/12/chapter-4-the-shifting-religious-identity-of-demographic-groups/

“Women are far more likely than men to identify with Christian groups (75% vs. 66%). Men, by contrast, are more likely than women to describe themselves as religious “nones” (27% vs. 19%).

But both men and women have become less Christian and more unaffiliated since 2007, by roughly equal amounts. The share of men who identify with Christianity has shrunk by eight percentage points since 2007, and the share of self-identified Christians among women has declined by seven points. Meanwhile, the share of “nones” is up seven points among men and six points among women.”

Reason for Pause

We found some sad and concerning statistics during research, which caused us to take some time to pause and reflect.

Those postponing marriage for the first time are at record highs; the highest rates since before the 1900’s. (1)
-Percent of men never married is almost 35% and women is almost 30%
-These rates are like those during times of war or natural disaster.

56% of those 18-34 years old that have never married desire to be. (2)
-26% Say the reason they are not married is because they have not found the right person.

50% of church going men have a pornography problem. (3)
-64% of U.S. men view pornography at least monthly. The number of Christian men viewing pornography is essentially equal to the national average broken down by age:
-79% men between the ages of 18 and 30 view pornography monthly.
-67% of men between the ages of 31 and 49 view pornography monthly.

80% of young evangelical Christian singles are sexually active. (4)
-30% of young single evangelical women get pregnant.
-40% of pregnancies end in abortion.
-37% of these women having abortions identify as Protestant.

STD’s are at epidemic rates in the US. (5)
-With 110 million infected out of 323 million population.
-50% of the new infections are in people ages 15-24.
-HPV accounts for over half of all STD’s.
-It can be spread not only through sex but by kissing.
-It causes cancer of the cervix, genitals, throat, neck and head.

Is the Church prepared or addressing these issues? (6)
-One study found 22% of 18-29 yr. old’s believe the church ignores real-world problems.
-33% feel they can not ask questions about these real problems.
-Young people want to be challenged and to talk about tough questions.

 

Sources
(1)
U.S. Census Bureau, Decennial Censuses, 1890 to 1940, and Current Population Survey, Annual Social and Economic Supplements, 1947 to 2015.
U.S. Census Bureau, Decennial Censuses, 1950 to 1990, and Current Population Survey, Annual Social and Economic Supplements, 1993 to 2015.
Mohler, Albert. “Reflecting on ‘The Mystery of Marriage’.” Boundless. http://www.boundless.org/relationships/2010/reflecting-on-the-mystery-of-marriage (retrieved March 21, 2016).
(2)
Newport, Frank and Joy Willke. “Most in U.S. Want Marriage, but Its Importance has Dropped.” Gallup. http://www.gallup.com/poll/163802/marriage-importance-dropped.aspx (retrieved March 28, 2016).
(3)
2014 ProvenMen.org Pornography Addiction Survey (conducted by Barna Group). The survey results are located at http://www.provenmen.org/2014pornsurvey/pornography-use-and-addiction
Genung, Mike. “How Many Porn Addicts are in Your Church?.” Crosswalk.com. http://www.crosswalk.com/church/pastors-or-leadership/how-many-porn-addicts-are-in-your-church-1336107.html (retrieved April 6, 2016).
(4)
”American Teens’ Sexual and Reproductive Health.” Guttmacher Institute. http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/FB-ATSRH.html (retrieved March 28, 2016).
Charles, Tyler. “The Secret Sexual Revolution.” Relevant Magazine. http://www.relevantmagazine.com/life/relationship/features/28337-the-secret-sexual-revolution (retrieved April 6, 2016).
(5)
Gholipour, Bahar. “Hidden STD Epidemic: 110 Million Infections in the US.” LiveScience. http://www.livescience.com/48100-sexually-transmitted-infections-50-states-map.html (retrieved March 28, 2016).
Grounsell, Lauren. “Kissing overtakes smoking as leading risk for head and neck cancers: Top doctor warns of ‘tsunami’ of oral human papilloma virus cases.” Daily Mail. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3176772/Oral-HPV-cases-rise-causing-tsunami-head-neck-cancers.html?printingPage=true (retrieved April 13, 2016).
Erickson Gabbey, Amber and Jacquelyn Cafasso. “Human Papillomavirus Infection” Health line. http://www.healthline.com/health/human-papillomavirus-infection?print=true (retrieved April 13, 2016).
(6)
Kinnaman, David. You Lost Me: Why Young Christians Are Leaving Church…and Rethinking Faith. Baker Books, 2011.